Divorce is far from easy. Life changes in ways you might not have predicted, and for maybe the first time in a long time, everything is resting on your shoulders. There is no one to remind you to turn the coffee pot off, or to bring the important documents you left on the kitchen table. It does get easier with time and practice, but a little knowledge really can go a long way in giving you a head start at making this transition in a more successful way.
The Secret of the Elite
A New York Times article divulged a secret trick used by some of the country's most elite divorcees – the use of a post-divorce planner. This hired individual can help with everything from setting up vacations and selling second homes to finding new insurance and staying on top of daily tasks. Of course, not everyone can afford such a service (average cost is approximately $350 a month), and not everyone who can afford it actually wants it. Either way, you need some reasonable and attainable methods for handling the madness that often ensues after divorce.
Seek Out a Support Network
Of all the positive changes you can make now, the support of a network of friends, coworkers, family, and even therapists is probably one of the most critical. Those that are without one after divorce often struggle with intense feelings of intense loneliness and isolation. In contrast, those that have a good support system in place often transition much easier because, when times are tough, they have someone to listen, distract, validate, or simply hug them.
Feel Good About Redefining Yourself
When in a relationship, people tend to think of themselves as part of a unit. The things they do, the places they go, even the foods they eat may be hinged (or at least partially based) upon the other person's wants, needs, or preferences. Hobbies may have been sacrificed. Personality traits may have been suppressed. Dreams may have been unified. But, as you forge forward with your divorce, start to consider what it is that you want. What are your hopes and dreams? What sort of hobby have you always thought of doing, but have never had the time for? Explore this, and other ideas that come to mind, and enjoy the process of redefining your life.
Ready to Move Forward with Divorce? Our Attorneys Can Help
If you are planning on filing for divorce and are ready to move forward, our experienced Naperville, Illinois divorce lawyers can help. Skilled and compassionate, we advocate for your best interest, every step of the way, and pursue the very best outcome possible. Get the representation you deserve. Schedule your initial consultation with Roscich & Martel Law Firm, LLC. Call us at (630) 793-6337 today.
Sources:
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/19/fashion/weddings/unhitching-divorce-concierge-service.html
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/life-after-divorce-3-survival-strategies